Dating a dad
If you meet a guy you like and he has kids, here are some things to consider:1. Bad behavior often reflects ineffective parenting and other problems, and these problems will have a destructive effect on your relationship.3. There’s a difference between a divorced dad who has full custody because mom has serious issues and a divorced dad who only has his child during the summer. Hopefully, the single dad’s ex will be a reasonably nice person and he will have a good relationship with her.The number of kids he has will affect your relationship BIG TIME. If the ex is difficult, this will cause problems down the road.[Feb 2016 Update: Dating a Divorced Dad – Version 2.0 Updated] Let’s Hook Up, Wait. We’ve both got some history under our belt, kids, and some requirements for what’s OK and what we simply won’t ever do again.(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.You may not be able to spend as much time with him as you would someone without kids – unless you decide to accompany him to his kids’ school and sporting events.
Today, I think sex can get in the way of learning if you like the person. I can be several different sizes of Boston Terrier, but if you’re into whippets and poodles, we’re probably never going to be a match. It may take several months to get in our first four dates, but… And then we’ve got all the negotiations about how and when we want to see each other. Fearless Commitment To Monogamy At first divorce may seem like we’ve gotten the key to the kingdom of sex again. And if you want to go further, we’ve got to establish some mutual objectives.
It can blur your vision when trying to figure out if you want to hang with this person for the long run. I’m Looking for 100% Pure Connection Half my life is behind me. I could see myself eyeing their bodies and trying to imagine the sex, but I stopped myself, pretty quickly, even with the fantasizing. Today, I’m even getting pretty stingy with first dates. I want my next relationship to start out with the potential going the long distance. At our age kids are either a choice you made or one you didn’t. Brutally Honest If it’s not a fit on the first date I’m going to try to let you know as gently and as quickly that it wasn’t a fit. And, in fact, feelings can be scary for both men and women.
And nothing against the non-parents in the group, but I’m so wrapped up with my kids, that if you don’t have that same passion and joy, we’re probably going to have to look for things to have engaging conversations about. I think that initial attraction is something that we can’t really control or completely predict, but I also don’t think we can do without it. But as we begin navigating our time together we’ve got to be able to talk about whatever we’re feeling.
She has some real concerns about how the relationship is going and wanted to hear from my perspective the true dynamics of what she's experiencing.
Let me first say that I'm not a relationship expert. I’m nothing more than a dad who has walked an interesting path on my way to raising two wonderful kids.
That relationship produced a daughter who was 3 at the time that the divorce took place.