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Thanks, THE GUYS Dear Guys, I’m 20 and I have a little girl on the way—my first child.
I was engaged to the dad for a year and he promised me the family I have always dreamed of.
When you think of a single mom on the dating scene, visions of a 20-something who can barely balance her own checkbook (guilty) probably don’t come to mind.
But, believe it or not, not all of us single moms are recent divorcées scrolling through silver fox profiles on Match.
Depression, suicide, drug abuse, jail and psychiatric medications are all more common in populations of children raised by single mothers. journalid=37&articleid=107§ionid=692 Ladies, this is why abortion exists!
Children of single mothers do poorly on every imaginable scale: they have more emotional problems, experience more stress, are more likely to grow up poor, they have lower educational achievements and experience way more behavioral problems than children who grow up with married parents.
(Trust me on this: I am one.) My single mom friends and I have experienced lots of first dates that we decided wouldn’t lead to second dates because our dates committed infamous “first date offenses.” These are true dealbreakers, so if you want a second (and third and fourth) date with that hot single mom you’re digging, take heed. A couple months ago, I went on a date with a guy who was looking to meet his bride at an altar. Within the span of knowing me for all but 45 minutes, he (1) mentioned that all of his friends were either in a serious relationship, engaged, or married, (2) told me he was looking to settle down, sooner rather than later, and (3) asked me, “So, what are you looking for in a relationship? We’re all looking for “The One,” but try not to make it seem as though you’re looking so hard.
(I’m sure the fellas would be able to generate their own list of first date deal-breakers for those dating a single dad, but let’s just fight one battle at a time here.
But once you have a child, you cannot take it back. Third, single mothers profoundly misunderstand men. There are few men who are overjoyed to spend their blood, sweat and tears on some other guy’s genetic offspring. A woman who cares so little about her children, her own prospects, and her future husband is NOT going to make a great wife. Oh, and in return, you have to make HER the center of your life. When you meet a divorced single mother, immediately start looking for the flaw. Something that drove another man to pledge his undying love to her, to have and to hold, from this day forth, and then sometime later decide “fuck this shit. Be very cautious around a woman who takes none of the blame for her failed marriage.
His comment gives a whole new meaning on the term “Mama’s Boy.” Quite frankly, any person over the age of 32 should not utter these words on a first date. And it surely isn’t going to get us to sleep with you any sooner. And while we’re at it, let’s leave third date comments like, “Everyone tells me that I’ll make a great dad (or stepdad) one day!
When the cocktails are flowing and the conversations are going, it’s hard not to get caught up in the excitement and possibilities of a first date. Asking that question on a first date doesn’t necessarily make you look like a kid-friendly guy to us. Can we all agree to enjoy the first-date dinner and stroll or coffee and pastries without these questions?
Dear Readers, Today’s question piggybacks on a previous question: Will guys date single moms?
Please read that post for more information about dating with kids. Also read a personal account, “Dating as a single mother in my 20s.” Please use the form on the “Ask the Guys” page to leave us a question.
Don’t ask anything along the lines of, “When can I meet your child(ren)? You may think we’re in a hurry to find a stepdad for our kid, but we’re not. Actions speak louder than words, so don’t just tell us, show us. ” No one wants to answer those dreaded questions on a first date. A few weeks ago, in the spirit of “getting back out there,” I gave a guy my phone number.